Dear Clara:
I’m getting married in a couple of months, and it is beginning to bother me that my fiancée is five inches taller than me. Although my bride has generously agreed to wear flats and I’ll be wearing the highest platform shoes in the world, I’ll still be shorter than her, and I’ll be extremely self-conscious standing next to her at the altar. This never bothered me before, so I don’t know what my problem is. Do you have any thoughts on this?
> Get shorty, Nick

Dear Nick:
You might be suffering from a temporary Napoleonic complex. Since you’ve never had this problem before, I don’t think it’s serious. As a matter of fact, it sounds more like wedding jitters, which is completely normal. It is only natural to feel self-conscious when all eyes will be on you, the bride and groom, on your wedding day. But remember, you will be surrounded by family, friends and guests who care about you. They will come to celebrate the union of love between you and your bride and not to make fun of your height. And even if they do, who cares? It is their problem, not yours. So focus on enjoying one of the happiest days of your life and don’t ruin it by making your height an issue when it’s not. By the way, congratulations! I hope you’ll be deliriously happy.

Dear Clara:
I’ve been married for six years, and my husband has a low sex drive. It’s been like this since the beginning of our marriage. I always have to initiate it. But I’m getting tired of doing this. It’s taking a toll on my self-esteem, not to mention it’s just not that romantic. Besides, I would like to have a child soon. What should I do?
> Feeling undesired, Felice

Dear Felice:
First of all, the worse thing you can do is to take this personally. It’s not about you. There could be many reasons why your husband has a low sex drive. It could be a physiological or a psychological problem. Both could cause low sexual drive. Instead of getting distraught, have your husband get a complete physical and discuss this problem with a doctor and rule out any possible medical conditions. If there isn’t one, he needs to see a sex therapist and discuss any psychological issues that may be hindering his sex drive. Either way, this can be resolved, so don’t get discouraged. Work things out together since this is probably taking a toll on your husband’s self-esteem, too, not to mention he’s probably embarrassed. Be sensitive and supportive and explore all options together. There is hope. This can be cured.

Dear Clara:
My mother-in-law came uninvited to my house to "help me" with my pregnancy. I already have a 2-year-old, and I was told by my doctor to stay in bed and get plenty of rest with no stress. The minute my mother-in-law arrived, she demanded that I make her meals, clean up after her and go buy things that she wants. On top of that, she complains and criticizes me non-stop about how the house isn’t clean enough and that I should be a better mother and wife. She also tells me that her son could have done better, and he was crazy to marry me instead of a 25-year-old. All this pressure is affecting my pregnancy, and I’m feeling horrible. What should I do?
> Mother-in-law blues, Pamela